Trauma Bonding in Romantic Relationships

Trauma Bonding in Romantic Relationships

As a young teen, I became involved in my first serious long-term relationship. The young woman I fell in love with was troubled. She had suffered unjust abuse and battled with mental illness. This fueled me. It gave me an opportunity to be a hero. As time went on, I attempted to help carry the weight of her burdens. I did not consider my needs, let alone ask for them to be met. My needs were neglected. Being as though I was so young, instilled in me was the pattern of trauma bonding.

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Narcissus and Echo, A Love Story

Narcissus and Echo, A Love Story

In the Greek telling of Narcissus and Echo, a talkative nymph (Echo) is cursed, robbed of the ability to start a sentence. Echo may only repeat or finish a sentence started. Narcissus, obsessed with his beauty, is on a hunt. Echo, who falls in love at first glance with Narcissus, follows him through the woods secretly.

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CODEPENDENCY: I’ll work for your love…

CODEPENDENCY: I’ll work for your love…

The impact, symptoms, and what you should do about it.

Psychology Today defines codependency as “a relationship in which, by being caring, highly-functional, and helpful, one is said to support, perpetuate, or enable a loved one’s irresponsible or destructive behavior.”1This enabled behavior may also be abusive. Codependency originally was a title given to relationships involving substance abuse2. However, it is now widely applicable and widespread.

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Love! Like in the Movies…

Love! Like in the Movies…

Where did (do) we get ideas about romantic relationships?

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Where did (do) we get ideas about romantic relationships?

Parents or caregivers, of course. Yet, we often don’t consider the source of our relational conceptions to be movies. In many cases, this is the primary source.

When I was young, I had my first real conception of what romantic love should be viewing the movie Jewel of the Nile. Michael Douglas and Kathleen Turner adventure through Columbia, attempting to find the fabled “jewel”. Douglas (Jack) plays the arrogant man, overconfident and fool-hardy, and Turner (Joan) a career-driven writer, overly-romanticizing every instance. Joan is lured by the Columbian dictator, and Jack sets out to rescue her with the help of his friends. During the course of their adventure, they rekindle their stale relationship, are married, and live happily ever after.

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The Psychology of Politics (and what we can do to cope)

The Psychology of Politics (and what we can do to cope)

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Our beliefs about politics are personal. We don’t like to discuss our beliefs as a measure of self-protection. Often, for good reason. Here are some things to keep in mind about politics and our interactions with other humans.

Politics.

In civilized company, it’s something we’re not to discuss. It’s divisive, personal and uncomfortable. Yet, it’s implied and assumed in almost everything we do. From the car you drive to your feelings on vaccinations and face masks. It is widely assumed these feelings are related to your political positions. People are more afraid now in 2020 to share political beliefs compared to in 201714.

But why?

Drive a Toyota?

Your a Democrat.

Ford F-150?15

Republican.

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